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Top ten tips for building self belief

18 Nov 2013

Our blogs over these past few months have concerntrated mostly on self belief, so it seems timely that this week we sum up our 10 ten tips for building self belief.

  1. Know that others will treat you according to the way you treat yourself. If you know that you deserve to be treated well, then that is how others will sub-consciously decide to treat you, too. However, if you expect to be "walked over" – taken for granted and not appreciated – then that will become your reality.
  2. Study authentic people (but don’t compare yourself to celebrities and other unauthentic people)
  3. Accept that guilt is a useless emotion – beating yourself up for the past means that you’re not getting on with the present – let alone planning for a successful future!
  4. Understand that your life's success or failure reflects the person who is leading it.
  5. Realise that by taking responsibility for yourself you’re in control of your outcomes. Blaming others and external circumstances leaves you powerless.
  6. Understand that your beliefs create the kind of life you experience. Ask yourself: “Are your beliefs about yourself going to create the outcomes you want?”
  7. Recognise that while you can't alter past experiences, you can release the emotional ties to the event. The keys to this "letting go" process are forgiveness and acceptance. This release then frees you to make decisions based on reality, and not on your illusions.
  8. Create wealth and abundance in your life by focusing on...wealth and abundance. (Most people experiencing financially hard times do nothing but think about how hard life is for them.) Start by remembering all your achievements and recognising all the good things that you already have in your life. Also be grateful for your new understanding and the consequent opportunity for change.
  9. Know that the biggest failure is not to try at all. And remember to congratulate yourself on your efforts, even when they don't succeed first time.
  10. Act as if you’re feeling confident, even when you aren't. The brain responds to your actions. For example, try smiling and feeling angry at the same time – it's not possible! It makes sense, therefore, to act as if you’re feeling confident, happy and in control because your real emotions will soon follow suit.

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